I've always liked Jonathan Clements of the Wall Street Journal, this is a pretty good article about the "touchy feely" side of planning....a side that I admit I don't go as deep in as others. He goes into two exercises that may provide value for you, even if one is usually used simply as a way to capture assets (usually by slimy brokers). I encourage you too read this article and go through the exercises (even if they feel a little wierd). Send me your results, don't worry I won't tell anybody!!
Scott Dauenhauer, CFP, MSFP